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Volume 5, Issue 8
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“Fathers and Birth”
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Fathers at Birth
Does the participation of the father aid or hinder the birth?
There are many sorts of couples according to the duration of cohabitation, the degree of intimacy, and so forth. There are many sons of men: some can keep a low profile while their partner is in labor; others tend to behave like observers, or like guides, whereas others are much more like protectors. At the very time when the laboring woman needs to reduce the activity of her intellect (of her neocortex) and "to go to another planet" many men cannot stop being rational. Some look brave, but their release of high levels of adrenaline is contagious.
The double language of human beings appears as the main reason why the complexity of such issues is underestimated. There is a frequent conflict between the verbal language and the "body language" of pregnant women. With words, most modern women are adamant that they need the participation of the baby's father while they give birth; but on the day of the birth the same women can express exactly the opposite in a nonverbal way. I remember a certain number of births that were going on slowly up to the time when the father was unexpectedly obliged to get out (for example to buy something urgently before the store is closed). As soon as the man left, the laboring woman started to shout out, she went to the bathroom and the baby was born after a short series of powerful and irresistible contractions (what I call a "fetus ejection reflex").
When raising such a question one must also take into account the particularities of the different stages of labor. It is often during the third stage that many men have a sudden need for activity, at the very time when the mother should have nothing else to do than to look at her baby's eyes and to feel the contact with her baby's skin in a warm place. At this time any distraction tends to inhibit the release of oxytocin and therefore interferes with the delivery of the placenta.
— Michel Odent, MD
excerpted from "Is the Participation of the Father at Birth Dangerous?"
To read this thought-provoking article in its entirety, click here.
Birth is a woman's time. The power which her body follows in order to open and let the baby emerge is a primal force of nature. What the birthing woman asks for is what she needs. Even the quietest, shyest women become unabashedly direct during the forces of labor. Your woman will tell you what she wants or doesn't want. You will be proud of the strength she displays. Your role is to dance along and love her through this magnificent process. Although it may be difficult for you to watch your partner in discomfort, remembering that your baby will arrive soon and that this is a natural and good thing helps to meet the greater goal. Birth becomes not so difficult and in fact is fun! And remember, you are vital to the process.
However, it also is important for you to find what is comfortable for you. How involved you are is your choice. In this culture we have progressed from complete exclusion of men in the birth to demanding their presence. It is between you and your partner to find what works best for you, and there is plenty of middle ground. You and your partner will only be pregnant and birthing a few precious times in this life. Enjoy and cherish these experiences. Fathering a child makes you part of a continuing evolutionary process, involving you in the production not only of your children, but your grandchildren and all generations to come.
— Jill Cohen, midwife
excerpted from "A Word to Fathers"
I undertook training fathers to be advocates for their partners in relationship to the hospital staff. This was accomplished by thoroughly explaining medical procedures, informing them of their rights, and reminding them continually that it was their baby, their birth, and their choice. Some dads really got off on this! The idea of storming the hospital and fighting for what they wanted was FUN. Often I felt as though I'd created a monster. I worked hard to teach tact, diplomacy, and the fine art of negotiation. Other dads were absolutely terrified by the thought of doing battle with medical professionals. No matter how well prepared they were with information, no matter how empowered they were with choices, no matter how deeply they believed in their partner's ability to give birth, they invariably ended up paralyzed and mute in the face of unwanted intervention like deer caught in the headlights.
— Lois Wilson, midwife
excerpted from "A Note to Fathers: It's You She Wants"
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Q: A plus-sized woman who has mild cerebral palsy (CP) wonders how the CP will affect her pregnancy and birth. She is concerned she might have a cesarean because of mobility and flexibility issues. She is also concerned that she or the baby might be more prone to complications because of CP. Do readers have experience, information, resources, or hints for women with CP and their births?
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Q: What do you consider to be the true beginning of first stage? Why?
A: Onset of labor cannot truly be labeled until the baby is born. The variety of patterns and signals is so great that it is best determined after the fact. I encourage women to tune into their bodies and be aware of changes. Most of the time a woman knows that something is different. For many mamas, the signals aren't dramatic but rather build over time. My first labor began in the waiting room of the doctor's office. At the time I wasn't sure, but in retrospect I know it was the beginning and precipitated by my OB's recommendation that we use prostaglandin gel to induce me since it was my due date!
It really pushes my buttons to hear women tell me their labor began at the time they arrived at the hospital—because it's not REAL until she arrives at the hospital.
It's important to include early first stage labor that culminates in birth into the total time. This would help families preparing for labor to have a longer, more accurate range of normal.
A: First stage labor begins when mom is having regular contractions that are consistently getting closer together and stronger and are not affected by walking, rest, food, drink, or relaxation. It doesn't matter how long they last or how far apart they are. That can vary greatly with every woman.
— Lara Miller
Re: VBAC [Issue 5:07]:
Read, read, and read some more. Silent Knife is an excellent source. I was so lucky it came out soon after my section. I also became involved in Cesarean Prevention Movement (CPM), now ICAN (International Cesarean Awareness Network). They were wonderful and provided lots of information. Seek out others with similar experiences that have had successful VBACs. I did not personally know anyone who had done it before me but was fortunate enough to have a wonderfully supportive midwife.
Even if a VBAC doesn't go well, there can still be emotional healing. I had an awful first birth in hospital and then an unnecessary section for my second son. I planned a homebirth for my first VBAC, but because the baby died and labor did not start, I had to have labor induced and I delivered in the hospital again. As terrible an experience as my daughter's birth was, I was still healed in other ways. My last two pregnancies resulted in fine healthy baby boys born at home. It is well worth the time to do the research and find supportive care from a source that can assure you when you have doubts and support you in your decision. Read everything you can find and surround yourself with supportive people.
The risk assessed to VBACs has always interested me because of my previous surgery and scarring. During the seventh month of my first pregnancy, intestinal blockage required exploratory surgery. My uterus was moved far to the side to allow for the blockage to be found and the repair done. I was stitched and taped and left the hospital three days later with an incision about 5–6 inches long.
Because of IV fluids and hydration, my abdomen was two times larger than when I went into the hospital. At no point was the incision or scar tissue mentioned following the surgery or during labor. I went on to have an unmedicated vaginal birth of a 7 lb 14 oz baby girl. I have to wonder, how can a previous c-section years before the subsequent birth be any more of a risk than major abdominal surgery three months before birth?
On that note, a woman I know has had seven c-secs and plans to have more. How is carrying so many babies and having so many c-secs approved of by a doctor? The reasoning just doesn't seem to make any sense in our current medical policies.
— Chantel Haynes
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by Gloria Lemay, compiled by Leilah McCracken
Gravida and Parity
Gravida ("to bear"): A pregnant woman. Any pregnancy including the present one.
Para ("to give birth"): A woman who has given birth. Includes any birth after 22 weeks, whether live or dead.
Nulligravida: A woman who has never been pregnant.
Primigravida: A woman who is pregnant for the first time.
Multigravida: A woman who has been pregnant more than once; she may not have given birth to a child of viable age.
Nullipara: A woman who has never given birth to a child over 22 weeks gestation.
Primipara: A woman who is giving birth for the first time.
Multipara: A woman who has given birth more than once at more than 22 weeks gestation.
Grand multipara: A woman who has given birth to five or more children at more than 22 weeks gestation.
Term: birth that occurs between 38–42 weeks of pregnancy.
Preterm: birth that occurs between 22–37 weeks of pregnancy.
Postterm: birth that occurs after 42 weeks of pregnancy.
A multiple pregnancy is considered as one pregnancy; the number of births is counted as the babies birthed. Abortions, both spontaneous or induced, are counted as gravida. After 22 weeks, all are counted as para, including stillbirths. The current pregnancy is counted as gravida until the time of birth.
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I am a graduate student researching the stories of lesbian birth mothers. I read a small study by an undergraduate student who interviewed a midwife who claims that lesbians have a higher cesarean section rate (about 50%!). Has anyone else heard this? Also, have you noticed that lesbians have a higher home-to-hospital transfer rate for planned homebirths?
— Heather Richard
Re: bachelor of midwifery course, Australia [Issue 5:07]:
This course is offered by Australian Catholic University, Monash University Peninsula Campus, and University of Victoria, St. Albans campus. Together they make up the "Werna Naloo Bachelor of Midwifery Consortium." The course is three years, full-time. Eighteen of the 24 units are specific to midwifery. At least 11 units are available online from members of the consortium. This allows some time flexibility. There is a large practice component to meet the requirements of ACMI for registration. Application is via VTAC. There are huge waiting lists each year. For further information see university sites and go to courses. I am in the first semester of the course. It's really enjoyable but a lot of work.
I live in Adelaide and have completed the two-year part-time BA of Midwifery at University of South Australia. I am a general nurse, hence why the course was only two years part-time. I have just commenced my graduate midwife programme at a public hospital, and for someone who did not know if I wanted to do midwifery after I completed the course, I am having a ball! The course had four subjects, and I worked from reproductive medicine, antenatal, postnatal, special care nursery and delivery suite. In South Australia, you only have to witness three natural births, assist with four, and complete at least 10 births independently. You also have to care for 20 other women in labour. I know in the eastern states and Queensland the number is higher so registration with the Nurses Board in each state can occur. If you are not a registered nurse, a three-year full-time degree has commenced, and you achieve a BA of Midwifery and can practice as a midwife. A one-year "bridging" course to register as a RN is being brought in with this degree if you want a double degree. I found the course to be a good grounding for midwifery but is complemented with a graduate programme once you have completed the degree.
Do you have information about Arab cultures and their practices regarding pregnancy and birth? I am a nursing student, and I am doing an oral presentation about this subject. Although I have a friend whose family is Arabic, I am looking for additional info.
— Tiffany Dotson
I am a nurse-midwifery student presently studying at a community college. Do readers have information about the evolution of midwifery, how it has progressed, ethical issues in midwifery practice?
— Sharon Norbal, R.N.
I experienced the beautiful birth of my first child with a midwife. However, my second child was born in a hospital because of location. I was allowed to go over 42 weeks gestation, thus I gave birth to a LGA baby. She had shoulder dystocia. I was forced to get off my hands and knees and on to my back for delivery. It was a nightmare. I was given an episiotomy that was not repaired correctly. I left the hospital without stitches. The doc assured me I would "fill in." I am recovering physically, but I am scared to death to deliver another baby. The doc told me I would never deliver another baby vaginally. My husband, who is a nurse, thinks I have post-traumatic stress disorder. Is there a support group for stressful birth experiences? Can readers recommend reading that could help me? How does one recover from a "mangled episiotomy repair"? I know I could do an episiotomy revision, but is that necessary? Will the discomfort ever lessen? I would love to have another child and trust my body again.
— Nanette Stark
Can readers guide me about myeloproliferative syndrome disease—remedies, natural food diet, and supplements to control the situation? Can someone recommend Internet sites?
— Bharat Sheth
I am trying to get some information about mucus plugs and their role in pregnancy and labor. After recently losing a baby at 31 weeks I am looking for many answers.
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