Survivor Moms
Women’s Stories of Birthing, Mothering and Healing after Sexual Abuse

Table of Contents

Chapter 1 ~ Life before Motherhood

  • Kay's Story
  • History: What Happened
  • History: Disclosure
  • The Range of Effects after Abuse
  • Effects: Posttraumatic Stress Disorder
    • Intrusive Re-experiencing
    • Avoidance and Emotional Numbing
    • Arousal
  • Effects: Other Trauma-related Problems
    • Dissociation
    • Somatization
    • Interpersonal Problems
    • Substance Abuse and Disordered Eating
    • Poor Self-care: High Risk Sexual Behavior, Revictimization and Self-harm
  • Effects: Depression
  • Effects: Altered Memory
  • Outlook for Help and Recovery
  • Relationships
  • Sexual Intimacy
  • Pregnancy as an Impetus for Change
  • Breaking the Chain
  • Where in the Process

Chapter 2 ~ Pregnancy

  • Elaine's Story
  • Pregnancy as a Trigger
  • Needing Help and Getting It
  • Family Relations
  • Bodily Experience of Pregnancy
  • Relationships with Care Providers
  • Issues for Providers: Gaining Skill in the Therapeutic Relationship
  • Three Key Relationship Issues
    • Trust
    • Boundaries
    • Transference and Countertransference
  • Conclusion

Chapter 3 ~ Labor and Birth

  • Katherine's Story
  • Lynelle's Story
  • Overview
  • What Is Left Out
  • Reading this Chapter
  • Issues of Care, Control and Coping Strategies
  • Finding Your "Match"
  • Relationships with Caregivers
  • Childbirth Classes
  • Birth Plans
  • Labor and Birth as Triggers
  • Dealing with Pain
  • Doulas
  • Birth, Paradigms, Traumatic Stress and Empathy
  • The Art of Attending and Facilitating Birth
  • Honoring Complexity and the Efforts of Individuals
  • A Physician's Perspective
  • A Midwife's Perspective
  • A Survivor Mom's Perspective
  • The Healing Power of Birth

Chapter 4 ~ Postpartum and Breastfeeding

  • Claire's Story
  • Postpartum Depression, Anxiety and PTSD
  • Processing Birth
  • Postpartum Mood Disorder
  • Practical Help and Peer Support
  • Therapy
  • Medications
  • Parenting Classes
  • Sharing the Burden with Trustworthy People
  • Breastfeeding
  • Making the Decision Whether or Not to Breastfeed
  • Breastfeeding and Posttraumatic Stress
  • Getting Help
  • Breastfeeding and Bonding
  • Making Adaptations
  • Breastfeeding as Healing
  • Professional Advice for Lactation Consultants and Postpartum Caregivers
  • What You Can Do
  • Conclusion

Chapter 5 ~ Mothering and Attachment

  • Sadie's Story
  • Kim's Story
  • Will I Abuse My Child?
  • Attachment
  • Mental Health
  • Relationship with the Child's Body
  • Gender
  • Boundaries and Discipline
  • Keeping Kids Safe
  • Telling Children
  • My Child Was Abused
  • Survivors' Other Parenting Thoughts
  • Good Enough Moms
  • Breaking the Chain
  • Healing through Mothering

Chapter 6 ~ Healing and Survivorship

  • Deborah's Story
  • Relationships
  • Family
  • Friends
  • Intimate Partner Relationships
  • Therapy
  • Getting into Therapy
  • Troubles with Therapy
  • Being in Therapy
  • Group Work
  • Confronting the Abuser
  • Recovery as a Lifelong Process
  • Faith-based Healing
  • Abuse by Clergy
  • On Forgiveness
  • Alternative Healing Modalities
    • Massage Therapy
    • EMDR
    • Music Therapy
    • Art Therapy
  • About Being a Survivor: Terminology
  • Activism
  • Conclusion

Afterword

Resources

References


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